I understand what you describe – that you feel bad if you’re doing better than others or surpassing them.

One question you may want to ask yourself and think about is this: By doing better, are you automatically making someone do worse? (looking good or bad is not the question here)

Or, by doing worse, are you guaranteeing that others naturally do better? (again, looking good or bad is not the question)

The quote you gave came from Nelson Mandela, and it is true. Many of us are afraid of our true potential, because once we reveal it, we have a responsibility to accept ALL that comes with this revelation – the rewards AND the challenges of acting from this light within each us.

This turns some of us away, because we have the wrong idea that “uh oh, now we must be perfect”. Not so! Being the true person you are, with all the power you have, DOES NOT MEAN YOU DON’T MAKE MISTAKES. We’re human beings with errors in judgment and occasionally lapses in common sense. We will make mistakes, we will fail, we will win, we will do well… these are all part of the natural cycle of life.

It is always the simple truths that are the most difficult to accomplish.

My secret is this: even when I sometimes don’t believe I “deserve” success, I go for it anyway. Don’t listen to everything your mind tells you, especially when you aren’t sure if the voice you’re listening to truly belongs to you.

Another secret is to succeed for someone else’s benefit. Once I experience this success, I can then see the answer to, “what additional good can I do?” For example, if I didn’t earn a certain amount of $, then I wouldn’t have been able to donate the $ I had been able to donate to a charity that I really believe in, and have been involved with for many years (using art to heal victims of domestic violence). If I was so afraid of success that I held myself back, then I wouldn’t have been able to contribute to this organization and help them put workshops for kids who have nightmares from witnessing their own parent beating up the other parent. By self sabotaging, not only am I not doing myself any favors, but I couldn’t help this charity help kids break a cycle of violence.

There’s a famous quote: “Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. It is our light, not our darkness that most frightens us. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? You are a child of God. Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. We are all meant to shine, as children do. We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. It’s not just in some of us; it’s in everyone. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same. As we are liberated from our own fear, our presence automatically liberates others.”

This is so true, yet hard for me to accomplish.